Every year around my birthday I get a little sad. I’m not quite sure why, but I always do. I think it mainly has to due with the fact that I see a new year as a milestone, and an opportunity to review and revise my life so far.
As is the case for the majority of people I know, I am my worst critic, and tend to see the glass half empty before I can see it half full, at least when it come to personal stuff. So I see where I am, what I have accomplished, how it compares with last year, look for similarities and differences, and go through a “hmmm, not really what I wanted, is it?” state, before I get to “what are you saying? this is actually great!” frame of mind, and start smiling again.
So today it hit me. Slowly, out of the blue. By the time I got to my karate class, I was already sad. Not sure why, but I was. It took me forever to concentrate on what I was doing. The fact I didn’t go to class once last week didn’t help much either, thus I was completely lost with Kata #3, and was placed in the middle of the group surrounded by brown belts, so I could do whatever they were doing if/when I got lost. Embarrassing!
Anyhow, after class I felt better. Exercising always does that to me. It invigorates me and makes me brighten up. Nonetheless, I thought I’d ponder this for a bit. If I am sad, it must for a reason right? Well, here’s my list of possible reasons so far:
1.- Something happens astrologically around one’s birthday which produces a melancholy in the environment, which one is bound to sense. It’s inevitable.
2.- I’m turning 35 and I’m feeling a bit too old for the life style I currently have.
3.- If I wanted to have children now, it would be considered a high risk pregnancy.
4.- I haven’t found the love of my life yet.
5.- I’m still resentful about what C did and his overall deplorable behavior.
6.- I need to lose 10 lbs and it’s damn hard!
7.- … I think that’s it…
I have good counter points for all of them, so don’t you despair.
1.- There’s nothing I can do about this, it will pass in a week or so.
2.- My current life style as a student is temporary, in fact, in less than a year I won’t be a full time student any more and will most probably have a full time job. So I might as well enjoy it while I have it, because for sure, I will not be student ever again after the doctorate is done.
3.- Women have children now at any age, whenever I am ready to have mine, it will still be medically possible. I am sure of this.
4.- He will appear or develop whenever it’s right. “Let go, and let God!”, remember?
5.- There is nothing I can do about C’s or anybody else’s behavior, so I need to let this go. I believe in Karma. What goes around comes around. He’ll have to deal with his actions and their consequences sooner or later, there is nothing for me to be resentful about.
6.- I have one word for myself: DIET!
7.- … Not that bad. I feel better already! : )
Glass half full people, half full!