On Pausing

I read this in the Yoga magazine a few days ago and thought “if it rings true to me, it must do so to others as well”, so here goes.

Stop, count to ten

When we enter into an intimate relationship, few of us escape visitations of insecurity and shame, of aversion and jealousy. Learning to bring an openhearted presence to these kinds of feelings, rather than reacting out of fear or hurt, is not easy. But when we are willing to stay put and pay attention at precisely the moments when we most want to lash out, cling tightly, or pull away, our relationship becomes a path of deep personal healing and spiritual transformation. As with any type of yoga, one of the blessings of the yoga of relationships is the profound inner freedom that comes from realizing the goodness and beauty of our essential Being.
Learning to pause is the first step toward transformation and healing. We pause by stopping what we’re doing—we stop blaming, withdrawing, obsessing, distracting ourselves. In the space a pause creates, our natural awareness arises, allowing us to be mindful, to recognize what is happening inside us without judgment. By pausing, we begin to dismantle lifelong patterns of avoiding or distancing.

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4 responses to “On Pausing

  1. I needed to read that today. Thank you!

    • You are very welcome my dear. I just read your post and I can see how this would be as meant-to-be for you today. You guys are doing it Sizz, DOING IT. The big picture is that you are making it work and that’s what counts. Hugs!

  2. I'm going to have to read this again when I'm less distracted in the head. I think I like what it says, but I'm not sure yet!

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