So a few weeks ago this went on.
…. or rather: would you care to talk again (even if you will throw me off a bridge when you can)?
I read it and thought, really? But of course my thinking didn’t stop there. I started thinking of all the possible responses as my mood changed from un-bothered, to really pissed-off. I weighed my options.
I could respond nothing at all. Disregard the email and carry on.
I could write “Piss off!” and leave it at that.
I could write the first thought that came into my mind once I read it “A one liner, really? That’s the best you can do after all this time?”
I could write “Sure, I’m willing to talk, as long as you are ready to apologize, say you’re very sorry for your poor decision making skills and admit what a jackass you were to me, and for the life of you promise to never ever do anything of the sort to any other women out there. If so, then yes, I’ll listen. And when I say listen, really that’s what I will do, because there’s nothing really I want to say to you, it’s not like we’re friends anymore.”
Or I could respond all of the above. Copy and paste this in an email and let you choose whatever response you want, because ultimately, it doesn’t matter anymore.
So, I went with all of the above.
Thank you for this – understood and no problem.
I feel bad about this now. Because as rotten as you might have been to me, that doesn’t entitle me to be mean to you or anyone else for that matter. So if there is something you need or want to say, sure, I’m willing to talk.
Hi, I did not have a specific topic to talk about, it was more a general thought. However, the purpose is of course not to (re-)stir up your anger, hence probably a bad idea – sorry about that.
Hi, yeah, I figured you just wanted to touch base and to be frank that’s what truly gets me upset. How can we possibly be friends now? Especially since you never have apologized for what you did. You see, I can let this go and to some extent I have, but I can’t conceive you not realizing what you did and feeling bad about it. That just doesn’t compute in my mind. If I behave badly with someone, which I’ve been known to do on occasion, it tends to bug me and I eventually make amends, I don’t pretend it’s the other persons fault and carry on as if nothing and then pretend we can still be friends because with time this person will forget about what I did. I understand you and I are different, I just can’t understand how you would think I could just forget and chit-chat as if nothing happened.
And then …. crickets …. Has he responded to you? Because, I got nothing.
Why, you ask? Why did he do it? Why now? Because he can. Remember Clinton? Yeah.