At some point last week I thought about quitting. Quitting dating that is. I even talked about it with my sister and tried to figure out how I would go about doing so. But you see, quitting has a negative connotation. It implies failure, it implies giving up, and I’m not a quitter, never have been, why start now? But still it was bugging me. I was feeling (still am) that there’s something here, in the dating department, to be done, and it involves stepping back, letting go, giving in. Yet, quitting didn’t seem as the right word to use.
A few days later I bumped into Marianne Williamson’s podcasts. She’s a spiritual speaker, who has a program on Oprah’s radio station. I had never heard of her until a few days ago and loved what she had to say. She mentions a course of miracles or some sort of program, but I just tune that out. And yes she speaks about Christ and I gather she comes from a Christian belief set because she talks about Jesus a lot too. But I think that even if you’re an atheist, there are valuable nuggets in these podcasts that might help you see things in a different light, at least that’s what her lecture did for me.
Marianne talked about surrendering. Surrendering instead of quitting, hmmm, somehow that sits much better with me. Of course, she wasn’t talking specifically about dating. She was referring to people having a divine self, a part of us that goes beyond the ego and can connect with grander aspects of ourselves. She emphasized that surrendering a situation to God is surrendering the situation to change; taking full responsability for our actions, behaviors and thoughts, focusing on the cause and what we did, to begin with, to help the unwanted effect to occur. She explains that once we focus on the cause and change it, the effect will be different as well. She goes on to say that we need not even worry about he effects, but focus on the cause. Once we have truly changesd the cause and start acting differently, then effects will occur by themselves. God (the universe or what have you) takes care of the effects, we take care of the cause.
So by surrendering those difficult issues in our lives, those wants, needs that surpass us, to the divine aspect of ourselves, we allow ourselves to truly grasp our roles and be able to mend them. Marianne explains a state of surrender, is a state of softness, atuned with our surroundings, which allows us to live a deeper more reflective life.
I think I’m ready to surrender. What about you?
“There is a power in you, but no of you, who can do for you what you cannot.”
“It is NOT too late.”
“A miracle is a shift in your own perception.”