Romantic? Me?

I’ve been thinking about romance today. Buffalo Dick wrote a comment on my last post which alluded to romance and reality being at different ends of a spectrum and that got me thinking… Is then romance not real?

I remember when I was little I used to live in a day dream land, in which romance was the lead character. As I grew up that world was not where I lived any more, but more so something that walked by me, like a shadow, which I could tap into whenever I wanted but which did not engulf me. As years went on and I fell in love and got my heart broken and broke a few hearts of my own, that world became yet more distanced. I grew up, reality hit, professions, jobs, responsibility and failed relationships all took a toll and my romance dream land seemed to evaporate.

Today if someone asks if I am romantic I smile, think about it and most probably answer no, when the truth is I was born one and something happened to me along the way. The dream, the one we have when are little, doesn’t always come true, and when we come to realize this is so, that’s when romance dies a little.

Ok, so the dream might take another shape, might not really come true the way I envisioned it, but does that mean there’s nothing left for me to be than jaded, cynical and wary? Hell no. I will be dammed if I am going to spend this life being bitter and resentful for what was not. I need to believe again, to go back to where I was as a little girl, to recover romance and make it real. Romance can be real. I know it. I’ve seen it. I’ve live it. So why not believe it again?

I’ll leave you with this, tell me what you think.

The Swell Season – If You Want Me (Bonnaroo 2008)

6 responses to “Romantic? Me?

  1. Romance is real enough, but it can be difficult to have your whole life. After 35 years of marriage it tends to come in non-sustainable bursts!

  2. A good song for this subject was written and sung around 40 years ago.. Judy Collins “Both Sides Now”. A line from that song- ” I’ve looked at love from both sides now, from win and lose and still somehow, It’s Love’s illusions I recall- I really don’t know Love at all”…

  3. buffalodick – I hear you, it’s not an everyday, 24/7 thing, but then again, what is?Thanks for the song, it is a great one for this post : )

  4. I agree with all of the above. I’m not necessarily a romantic person, but I do have my romantic moments. Well, I like to think I do. I guess for the real answer, you’d have to ask my fiance. hahaha.

  5. It’s all within the heart of the individual. And let’s face it, commercialism has corrupted the idea of romance anyway. Flowers, chocolate, dinner, dancing… etc.. it’s all been hammered in to us that THOSE things are romantic. But what’s romantic is what each person THINKS is romantic. You know?

  6. Romance for me is when someone thinks enough of me (and about me) to do something nice for me once in a while when I’m not there. that is all. I’m definitely a romantic at heart, although I didn’t realise how important it was to me until I went out with someone who didn’t have a romantic molecule even in the bone in their whole body.I live in hope that one day I may meet someone who is at least a little bit romantic back. I haven’t lost that hope quite yet 🙂 I also have to say that my three serious boyfs haven’t yet demonstrated that blokes ‘get’ romance at all….maybe I’m stupid to continue to live in hope, but I guess hope is a powerful thing.

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