“As Alice took a shower, she realized it came down once again to one thing: What did she believe in? In other words, what kind of life did she want to live? Did she really think the love of her life was out there? Did she think is was wise to go back out into the wilds of being single just in the hopes of finding him? What was she holding out for? As she toweled herself off, she realized that she didn’t want to be the girl who refused to settle. She didn’t want to be the girl who believed that life is short and it’s better to be single and looking for “the love of your life” than to just give up and settle. She didn’t want to be that girl. She thought that girl was stupid. Naive. Alice liked being practical; she was a lawyer, so she preferred to be realistic. Waiting and searching for the love of your life was exhausting. It might even be delusional. Again, yes, she knew that some people win the lottery and get to fall in love with someone who is also mad about them, and their life together is harmonious and filled with love. But she didn’t want to be the girl who stubbornly held out for what might never come.
She sat back down on her bed, wrapped in a little towel, and she began to cry. She started sobbing; she hugged her legs and she put her head on her knees and rocked and wept.
She realized she was that girl.” (How to be single, Liz Tucillo, p. 331)
Are you still looking/waiting for him?
Or have you decided to be practice/realistic and settled?
Which girl are you and how did you come to this realization?