I’ve been thinking about men lately. “When did you ever stop?” you might ask, right? But, seriously, I’ve been thinking about men and their attitudes toward others, or in my specific case toward me. Men tend to be very selfish and egocentric type of people. Now don’t come out and tell me what a friend of mine told me recently, “If you think all men are shit, then date women!” Yes, this was a guy, in case you were wondering.
Now, I’m not a man hater, I like men. I don’t think all men are shit, and I am definitely not open to dating women. My point is that it’s starting to seem to me that most men are extremely selfish, self-center and very clear that their main 3 priorities in life are themselves. Why is this?
I started thinking that maybe it had something to do with the place they had in their family. If they were the younger child, sure they would be very self-centered and tend to think that the world revolved around them. But guys who are the first born of their siblings or the middle child, don’t tend to be any different. Is it a male thing?
Of course all this is based solely on my personal experiences. I haven’t taken the trouble (really don’t have the extra time right now) to do serious research on the topic, although I have read academically about it before. But I seem to encounter this with guys I date, friends, family members, etc.
Why so inconsiderate? Why so selfish and clueless (I really think they chose to ignore what is obvious) when it comes to women’s needs and wants? Why basic politeness and thoughtfulness seems to elude them whenever they have to chose between themselves and others?
Am I totally off the mark? Have you encountered this too? Or are you surrounded by thoughtful, giving, respectful men?